I’m going to start making Monday my “Meme* Day.” You are invited to answer these questions for yourself in your own blog or in the comments section of mine. Here’s today’s meme:
When was the best time, or what was the best experience, you've had with a sibling?
When I think about memorable experiences I’ve shared with Kathy, most of them are the kinds that make us (and only us) laugh. But there’s not one single event that really stands out; I just have the memory of us having a lot of fun. As for what has been most meaningful, I would say that even though it is a horrible experience, working through our grief after losing Dad has made me more grateful than ever that I have her.
When do you feel the loneliest?
I rarely feel lonely anymore. I’m rarely alone anymore. If the kids and Vic aren’t around, I have the dogs, who don’t leave my side. I feel lonely for certain people sometimes. But because I have my husband and kids around, see my in-laws often, talk to my mom and sister just about every day, and e-mail my friends, I almost always feel connected to the people that are most important to me.
If a one-year period of your diary were to be published with your name attached, what year would you prefer?
I wrote in my journal regularly throughout high school and college, and that’s interesting to me to read now—even though I haven’t looked at it in a few years—because I can see myself maturing. But probably what would be more interesting to other people would be the journal I kept during Katie’s first year. I had debilitating postpartum depression for several months, and there were a lot of times that I really didn’t think I could handle being a mom. I wouldn’t have hurt myself or the baby, but I certainly considered running away from home. One thing I’ve told all of my friends who are becoming parents for the first time is that it’s normal to feel overwhelmed. I didn’t know who to talk to about all that stuff, and I really felt like I was a horrible person for not being completely in love with that newborn baby. Everyone kept telling me what a gift she was, and I desperately wanted to tell them to put their babysitting arms where their mouth was (I wanted to tell them other things too, but this is a family blog).
What has been the biggest accomplishment of your life (so far)?
I’m supposed to say “being a mom” here, aren’t I? I adore my children, and I no longer have regrets about choosing motherhood. But I have to say, I feel incredibly satisfied to have long ago chosen a career path that I have not only stuck with, but have thoroughly enjoyed. Going from full-time to contractor work has been a big change, but I have never been out of work because I have networked and made a good reputation for myself. As far as family goes, I do feel glad that my kids live in a home where mom and dad love each other and are both equally devoted to their family.
You’ve won $100,000 – but have to give it all away. To which charity or institution would you donate it?
If I thought it’d get a building named after me, I’d donate it to my alma mater, Walla Walla University. Unfortunately, I think $100K would only get me a Honey Bucket. The Jennifer Saltmarsh Manullang Honey Bucket. Woo. Seriously? I’d give it to the Olivia Medici Memorial Fund, a very worthy cause.
*Meme: In blogspeak, this is an idea that spreads across the Internet, typically a list of questions whose answers become blog entries. It is pronounced “meem” by most people. Outside of blogging, but still in the context of the Internet, memes are defined as those items that get e-mailed and linked until everyone in the world has seen them. Think “Dramatic Prairie Dog” or “Evolution of Dance.”
I encourage my other blogging friends to write/answer memes. They’re great writing exercises and can provide interesting insight, if only to you. Like you, Sheila... why don’t you have a blog? Just think of all the great Aiden stories you could share.
Have a great Monday!